The 5 things people regret the most on their deathbed

In the Huffington post, Bronnie Ware wrote about what she had learnt during the years
she worked in palliative care. The patients she had were the ones who knew that they
only had a couple of weeks or months left to live. Although they all had regrets, they
found peace before they past away.

She asked them if they had any regrets or if they would’ve done something differently
if they could and the same things were brought up time after time.

The things they regret the most were;

5. “I wish that I had let myself be happier”
They had come to the conclusion in the end that happiness is a choice.
They had just stuck to their everyday-life and not been truly honest with themselves.
They had grown into a mold that other people created for them, instead of being open
to change and new things. They said that while lying there, they hadn’t thought about
what others thought of them. They wished that they had let go and allowed themselves
to be silly, laugh loud and smile more.

I loved how Bronnie wrote this:
“Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely,
choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
They realized that they had forgotten about their friendships while being so busy with
their own life and not given the energy to the relationships that needed it.

“Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
This is very common in most people’s lives today. We forget or we take people for granted.
We don’t expect them to call us and we don’t call them. To assume that they will be there
in the long haul is ridiculous but we all tend to do this with either one or several people.

“When you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away.”
You don’t think about the material things, they’re not important.
In the end – the most important things are your relationships and love.

3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
A lot of people choose to be silent instead of stating their opinion on something just to
avoid confrontation or because of the fear of someone not thinking the same way. This
creates them to settle or not standing up for themselves as much as they should. It prevents
them to realize their true potential. We are scared of the reactions we might get from other
people. But you create stronger and better relationships if you choose to be honest. You can
avoid misunderstandings and misguidance. It is a win-win situation. Better relationship
or being able to avoid a bad one.

2. “I wish I didn’t work so hard.”
This one speaks so loud to me.. There are so many people out there who strive towards more
and more money without a plan with a strong foundation that will also create time for them.
What is the use of plenty of money if you don’t have the time to enjoy them. I am preventing
this right now for myself. I will work hard now and then I will have the choice to stop
working when I’m 30. I will have time and still get money each month.
I love my plan, to be honest.

Bronnie heard this from every male patient she had. They had missed out on so much, their
children’s childhood and the relationship they had with their partner. Since this was an
older generation, the men were typically the ones working the most so that’s why this case
refers mostly to her male patients.

“All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much
of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself,
not the life others expected of me.”

This was the most common regret – people see how many of their goals and dreams
that were still unfulfilled.

“Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die
knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

“It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way.
From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom
very few realize, until they no longer have it.”

I hope that this can be an eye-opener for a lot of you who are reading this, maybe you even thought of someone who should read this to change the path their life is on at the moment. Either way, if you feel like you’re job is a dead end and you know that it wont bring you to where you want to be within the next 5 years – let me help you. You might be a perfect business colleague to join my team. It doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 75, you are all welcome if you have big dreams, a positive attitude and a big reason to why you have to change your life.
Live life to the fullest, each and every day.





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